You get the idea. Now, let’s take the most gut-wrenching example, the death of a child, and see if together we can’t make better sense of why God would allow the bad to exist.Why would God allow that? Why would God allow a child to lose his or her little life?From God’s perspective, that life is not lost. God is able to restore to that child their life, so no loss is suffered on the part of the child. Life is not lost to the One who can restore it.What about the grief that parents and family experience?In our loss, the presence of God is available for us to experience His strength, His comfort, His sustaining love and assurance... God sustains those who grieve for those He calls to Himself.
God has a heart for hurting parents. Should we be surprised? After
all, God himself is a father.
What parental emotion has he not felt? Are
you separated from your child? So was God. Is someone mistreating your
child? They mocked and bullied his. Is someone taking advantage of your
children? The Son of God was set up by false testimony and betrayed by
a greedy follower. Are you forced to watch while your child suffers? God
watched his son on the cross. Do you find yourself wanting to spare your
child from all the hurt in the world? God did. But because of his great
love for us, “he did not spare his own Son but gave him for us all. So with
Jesus, God will surely give us all things” (Rom. 8:32 ncv).
“All things” must include courage and hope.
Some of you find the story of Jairus difficult to hear. You prayed the
same prayer he did, yet you found yourself in a cemetery facing every
parent’s darkest night: the death of your child. No pain compares. What
hope does the story of Jairus offer to you? Jesus resurrected Jairus’s
child. Why didn’t he save yours?
God understands your question. He buried a child too. He hates
death more than you do. That’s why he killed it. He “abolished death
and brought life and immortality to light” (2 Tim. 1:10). For those who
trust God, death is nothing more than a transition to heaven. Your child
may not be in your arms, but your child is safely in his.
We tend to forget this fact, regarding our children as “our” children,
as though we have the final say in their health and welfare. We don’t.
All people are God’s people, including the small people who sit at our
tables. Wise are the parents who regularly give their children back to
Face your grief with tears, time and - one more - face your grief with truth. Paul urged the Thessalonians to grieve, but he didn't want the Christians to "carry on over them like people who have nothing to look forward to, as if the grave were the last word" (1 Thessalonians 4:13).God has the last word on death. And, if you listen, he will tell you the truth about your loved ones. They've been dismissed from the hospital called Earth. You and I still roam the halls, smell the medicines, and eat green beans and Jell-O off plastic trays. They, meanwhile, enjoy picnics, inhale springtime, and run through knee-high flowers. You miss them like crazy, but can you deny the truth?They have no pain, doubt, or struggle. They really are happier in Heaven.And you won't see them soon?When you drop your kids off at school, do you weep as though you'll never see them again? When you drop your spouse at the store and park the car, do you bid a final forever farewell? No.When you say, "I'll see you soon," you mean it.When you stand in the cemetery and stare down at the soft, freshly turned earth and promise, I'll see you soon, you speak truth. Reunion is a splinter of an eternal moment away.There is no need for you to "grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope" (1 Thessalonians 4:13 NIV)So go ahead, face your grief. Give yourself time. Permit yourself tears. God understands. He knows the sorrow of the grave. he buried his son. But He also knows the joy of resurrection. And, by his power, you will too.
"He will wipe every tear from their eyes.There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain,for the old order of things have passed away."(Revelation 21:4)
"Give your burdens to the Lord.He will carry them.He will not permit the Godly to slip or fall."(Psalm 55:22)
"So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen.For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.Now we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed,we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven,not built by human hands.For while we are in this tent, we groan and are burdened, becausewe do not wish to be unclothed but to be clothed with our heavenlydwelling, so that what is mortal may be swallowed up by life.Therefore we are always confident and know that as long as we areat home in the body we are away from the Lord.We live by faith, not by sight.We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the bodyand at home with the Lord."(1 Corinthians 4:18 and 5:1-9)
When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable,and the mortal man with immortality, then the saying that iswritten will come true:"Death has been swallowed up in victory""Where, O death, is your victory?Where, O death, is your sting?"
(1 Corinthians 15:54-55)